NOT AGAINST THE STREAM, JUST NOT FOLLOWING IT

10:08:00 PM



I have this thing for stirring clear of the mainstream. I'm attracted to things most people ignore, and I avoid things most people crave. It is predominantly because of my introversion. I constantly feel like I need to get away from where the crowd flocks and find my own little space where I don't have to compare myself to others all the time. So when there's a new coffee shop in the neighborhood with Instagrammable interior and gangs of girls fill up the reservations every brunch time for at least the first three months, that coffee shop would be the last place I'd want to be. Thankfully, my husband gets me and is happy to "isolate" together.

This applies to the fashion part of my world. I fancy all the pretty little trends as featured in the most recent month of Vogue, but as soon as I go shopping and find a piece of such trend, the first thought that comes to mind is: how many girls are wearing the same thing these days. It will only end up in my purchase cart if I can comfortably say that not that many girls, if not none, wear it. Rest assured, you won't see me in Zara more than twice a year.

It does make shopping a tad more difficult though, because no fashion stores want to sell something most girls won't buy. Consequently, I often have to look extra hard to find my treasure. 

If you're reading this and saying "that's so me!", here's how I manage:

1. Shop at the non-ladies department. This includes men, unisex, and kids department. You may frown upon that last one, but here in Indonesia, the size range of the kids department at most stores reaches the size of petite adults. Seriously. The largest size at H&M Kids and Zara Kids is designated for "kids" with 170cm of height. I'm only 164cm! (So Zara Kids would be the only section in a Zara store you'd probably find me twice a year).

2. If you have to shop at the ladies department, buy something that's NOT your size. More often than not this means several sizes larger than your actual size. This way, although you'll probably be purchasing an item that many other girls have purchased, you'll have the upper hand of styling it differently.

3. Avoid the "last piece" rack. It simply means ALL of the other pieces have gone to the wardrobe of most girls in the city, and besides, the discounts on these pieces, if any, are usually unattractive.

4. Spend some time at pop-up stores or flea markets. Especially, when they feature indie designers or vintage collection. And have an open mind while you're at it. Some pieces look undesirable at first sight, but that's probably because you're unconsciously thinking of whether and how other girls have rocked it. When you stop and think of how YOU and your wanderlust soul would style it, you might change your mind. 

I would love to hear a tip from you too! If you have any, please give yours truly some love and drop them in the comment box. Thanks, and have a wonderful week, everyone!



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51 thoughts

  1. Beautiful :)

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  2. Great post! I used to be so against mainstream things (okay...maybe I still am a little)--but there came a point in time where I started thinking, if I like it, who cares! If something catches my eye, I'm inclined to it. And if it's the "in thing" at the time, it gives me more reason to try and style it differently to make it more me. However, thank you SO much for this post! I agree that stepping outside of your comfort zone and stringing away from the masses will help you to grow your style propulsively! I love your style, keep it up! x

    Kit | THINGS SHE LOVES

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  3. Love this post and adore the design of your blog! I am honestly one of the people who usually go for mainstream pieces, but try to style them differently. I feel like I'm not brave enough to try something completely new, but your post definitely gave me some courage!

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  4. Minimalism look :) Love That!
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  5. Great post, I really like the oversized, minimalist look

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  6. Such a cute lil purse! You look lovely.
    Xx, Raysa

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  7. Love your pants babe. They are so unique. You're rocking the look! Hope you had a fab weekend. xo, sharon

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  8. I think I need to follow some of your tips since sometimes I feel so "mainstream" lol. Thank you for your tips! Its really useful :)

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  9. These are such good tips!
    I don't really care if everybody is wearing the same clothes as I do, but I have friends who like to be almost the only one with that piece. Next time, I'll tell them your advice!

    Laura | http://www.furiouslychic.ch/

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  10. Omg you look so cute! Nice tips! I bought the pants from kids section once too. Because I'm less than 160 in height. So it was perfect. On those pants was ''for 8-10 years old kids'' haha.

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  11. I totally agree with you! Maybe, for fashion, I am not so original, but for the other things (interests, thoughts, etc...) I usually follow my own way :)
    Very nice post, thanks for sharing!
    xx Elisa
    Francine's Place | Diy & Lifestyle Blog

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  12. such a beautiful outfit! Love your look and your hairstyle is so pretty ♥
    xx
    Selina | Selinas Inspiration

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  13. I like finding unique things as well. Cool outfit!

    Amy Ann
    Straight A Style

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  14. Great outfit and great post! Finding unique pieces that fit you and your personality are always a great thing!

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  15. Aw I love this post! It's cool you talk about how to go about things if you want to be different and stand out. I too am a bit on the introverted side. I have my moments though! I've always had a weird taste in music and style from the rest of the crowd. :)

    -Emily www.coatandcoffee.com

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  16. I love this simple outfit <3 Your photos look great and amazing post!

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  17. I love your honesty! You look great too!


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  18. I really admire with girls that have your fashion taste and fashion sense. I wouldn't say I have your average cookie-cutter style but definitely go with trends too. Beautifully written babe, you're a fashion queen!

    xoxo Rina
    http://www.andshedressed.com

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  19. I love your shoes, girlie! You know, it wasn't until recently that I've been reading a ton of suggestions on shopping in the men's department for sweaters and shirts, to get that oversized look and I love the idea! I think it's great to think outside of the box when it comes to shopping, you can end up snagging some really unique pieces that way. Thanks so much for sharing, beauty, and I hope you're having a great week so far!

    XO,

    Jalisa
    www.thestylecontour.com

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  20. Nice tips. I know the feeling, especially during the holiday season with everyone outside trying to buy gifts. There are no non crowded area.
    btw I like how simple your outfit is but still very stylish. I love the over sized shit. :)
    xo
    Sauniya | Find Your Bliss ♡

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  21. Hi, it's me again!
    I tagged you in a blog post, if you'd like to read. ;)

    Laura | http://www.furiouslychic.ch/

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    1. hi Laura, I just saw this. thanks a lot! i feel honored. always an interesting story to hear why and how people started their blogs. I'll try to do the same when the circumstances are right. thanks again! <3

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  22. I love shopping in the kids department! So many great finds! Totally agree!
    Love the look!
    Dora www.BangsBang.com
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  23. totally agree with you! and this outfit looks so chic
    xoxo
    style frontier

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  24. You look lovely! I am exactly the same and like to find the quiet little places, I also like to look in the men and kids sections for inspiration too :) xx

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  25. I never really thought about the last sale rack like that before! Now I so I will be avoiding it in future, you look lovely :)

    Rosy | Sparkles of Light Blog
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  26. Funny how I feel exactly the same way as you do about doing and loving everything that's trending! Which I guess it makes sense, since I am an introvert as well :) great tips!
    xx
    LA VEINE

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  27. It's really fun to find unique or different pieces! I have a couple items that are either thrifted or from the men's section, and I love them. Great ideas!

    Kathryn • simplykk.com

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  28. You are so beautiful with that look. Love your makeup. And your little bag is super cute.

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  29. You look stunning!
    The dress looks elegant.

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  30. great tips! i love shopping in the mens department too for the exact same reason :")

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  31. Gorgeous look! Looks so comfy
    Xoxo

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  32. Oh very cute style darling
    I love it your coordinate~
    Thanks for your tips
    xx

    www.sakuranko.com

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  33. I love how you styled these culottes. You look incredibly chic, as always! Also, I totally know what you mean about not wanting to follow trends and to stand out from the rest. I liked your tip about shopping flea markets for indie designers. I will definitely try that out!

    - Maya at www.TheKelleyDoll.com

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  34. couldn't agree more, specially th pop ups, and supporting people who are not mainstream, or already mad it like HM or zara. I try to shop very little in places like that, cause in the end everyone has it.
    xx
    MA

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  35. I really like this post, it's so inspiring :)
    Have a lovely weekend :)
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  36. Great outfit! :)
    Thank you for this tips!

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  38. Very stylish and put together look.

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  39. Aw, I love this. Great list of tips too. You look absolutely adorable and cool ♡

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  40. same with you, but for me i'd better look and buy some clothes at the thriffed store, some vintage stuff is my favorite. Maybe people would say "why did you buy some clothes that have been used, or not a brand new" but, who cares? i love it btw :)

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thanks for the thoughts!

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